@sikkdays there are notification options in preferences
@sikkdays I'm borderline on a mental breakdown when it comes to my potential future in a club I'm in because they've decided to use Instagram for club business organization because "everyone already has Instagram".
I don't know about anyone else, but I seriously doubt my ability to get anything concrete done for the club if I have to work on... Instagram Direct.
@taivlam Yes! This year I have vowed to drop FB, Twitter, and Insta because I'm not living my truth. Both for my mental health (icky social comparison) and because I want to promote open source/inclusive things like Masto. The "everyone has" argument can no longer be allowed. I just bought a new phone plan to talk to those people on those apps that I don't want to lose contact with.
@sikkdays Now that you've mentioned it, FB and IG are the top 2 mainstream social media sites that straight up make me depressed, inducing FOMO in its users and making users feel like "everyone is on a beautiful and hedonistic vacation fit for a travel agency brochure while you're living out your pathetic boring life".
@sikkdays However, whenever I'm on Mastodon, Pixelfed, &/or Write.as, I feel like my brain is actually challenged to figure out how to use these fediverse sites (in a good way; I'm not saying that the UX of these sites are terrible out of the box) and that I'm actually creating something/figuring out something (for myself, at the very least.)
@taivlam The self promotion in the fediverse also feels like, "Hey, I am a human and I would love some support."
On the centralized platforms it is more like, "I AM BRAND, BE BRAND WITH ME USING CASH."
@sikkdays Yeah, the advertising is crazy on FB and IG.
This is why I only used FB on web with all privacy browsers add-ons/extensions from https://www.privacytools.io/ (back when I had it, but I suspect Privacy Badger and uBlock Origin are the ones hard at work).
Also, I would never use the native IG Android app - I don't want to deal with them ads.
@shadowbottle @sikkdays I'm quite certain they do passive-agressive shit. I have noticed the same pattern of starting to receive email notifications years after unsubscribing but I have also noticed the opposite too: not getting notifications about direct messages (which was the only thing I had enabled) presumably so that awkward situations like missing a message would make me log in to facebook.
@sikkdays let's just say, I wouldn't be surprised if we learn in the future, through an indirectly related lawsuit, about questionable tactics employed by said company or its parent company (many of which will probably be psychological).
btw have you tried out pixelfed
ourempty.pub is one server in the network